Living Life

Jimmy Kimmel National FB Unfriend Day

Too funny not to share everywhere, so in case you haven’t seen it (which apparently in years passed, I have not); here’s a good laugh for you – I”m guilty of so many I hope I have FB friends come 11/18!

 

 

And historically, where it started with Jimmy, here!  I’ve always loved William Shatner.

 

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The Lovers March to Eternity

There is so much fire burning within, smoldering wishes for love’s life to begin.

Life again as it was when I was young with our free hearts of passion entwining as one; experiencing the world joined together – souls lit with the promise of plenty forever – an imaginative history created before it begins, these are the things that young hearts believe in.

The embers lost daily to life’s routine this poem starts from loss, sorrow; misplaced dreams.

There is much to be said for the commitment and respect, for the sanctity of marriage so as not to regret, but if you find yourself lost then you must start again and remember what passions were in you as life began.

And then you have no choice for you must decide to take the path well worn and traveled or challenge the ride. I’m not sure what I have in me, the strength or the hope to make my dreams be in this swirling of smoke- it burns, burns my eyes, burdens my soul, weighs me down into restraining control.

I must find again the desire, the longing, the belief; passion and fortitude within me I seek, vulnerability held gently as I fight to hold on. I ask, dare I bask in the prosperous riches of risk -to begin again though I’m still lost in the mist.

Though the scars of careless openness still hang weary on my soul, I remain determined, steadfast and bold.

Still vigilantly marching upon the sublime dogged foes, the constant companions of the “average Joes”, they will have to be sacrificed for my love to be free, they will have to be sacrificed for me to be me.

I will find what I live for!  Valiant, golden and bright! … for I am, forever my Father’s delight.

And with His constant direction of warmth and hope, together my love and I will march to the end of the road; where I’ll look upon your face and thank Heaven above for His unending support of our perilous love.

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Difficult or outright bad bosses, read on!

So, I don’t know about you, but I’ve had my share of them, maybe that’s why bloggers try to make a living blogging – to escape the corporate world of small cubicles, broken office equipment, office politics, confinement, that one weird employee and bad bosses.

I found two great articles in one day, actually less than 15 minutes apart…

is it “Bad Boss’s Day”?  #horriblebosses2

Both of these are great articles..

The first by Amy Rees Anderson a contributor for @Forbes; her article is entitled, “How a Bad Boss Can Make You Sick” and it focusses on noticing the physical stress and health risks of the noted 77% of employees who experience physical symptoms from bad bosses.  That’s staggeringly sad. Three (3) out of (4) employees report that their boss is the worst part of their job and they’d rather give up a raise for a new boss.  I can relate and if interested, I’ve detailed some of my boss trauma below.

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The second article is by Liz Ryan of @humanworkplace   I just adore Liz, she has written so many amazing Human Resource articles that if you’re working in any corporate situation, I’d recommend you follow her or review her website (human workplace.com).  Everything from “How to Fix Your Manager to articles for job seekers or anyone needing HR advice.  And note in the article, “fixing your boss” is really more about “understanding your boss” and when it’s time to give grace or move on.

I have had bosses and work situations that literally made me so anxious I would panic on the drive in to work.  Not even horrible things like discrimination, safety issues or sexual harassment; though when I was younger, much younger, before sexual harassment was a “thing”, I had a boss that told me my butt looked so good in my jeans (and he really thought that was a compliment) that he offered me up as payment to the UPS man; jokingly of course, but really? and though I was uncomfortable (I was like 19), I had no idea that was just wrong.

…and my worst case of sexual harrasement was when we had a new President for our company come in (and sorry, he looked like an old frog) and he, we gals sadly discovered, had a penchant for blatantly kissing the young office girls.  I was able to steer clear of him for quite some time but then as a reward for a job well done (ugh), they promoted me to his Assistant and gave me a desk just outside his office, a desk I tried never to sit at.  I made it a point to only deliver his mail, etc. when he wasn’t in the office, thinking that not being in his office with him would be my safest route.  Well, I was wrong, it didn’t matter, during a meeting with another man present (of authority and who I thought was a nice guy) ole’ frog lips grabbed my face before I knew what was happening and planted a kiss on my lips – he was an old Italian fresh over from Italy, don’t know if maybe there they thought that was OK as he surely didn’t seem to realize this behavior was not OK.  In any case, no one in authority (and many people knew of his constant and far reaching abuse) ever spoke a word about it. That was in the early 80s before it was really recognized or given much concern; and we girls were young and didn’t know how to respond or who to respond to when the authority folks already knew and didn’t do anything. In hindsight, I think they just wanted to keep their jobs.  It’s funny, but it was only a few months ago in discussing this type of thing with a friend, that I realized I had been sexually harassed and a number of times long ago.  Anyway, those are, though difficult, pretty clear cut cases that HR will handle for you.

The other kind of insidious negative boss behavior I think is almost worse because it’s just human behavior, just a boss who doesn’t care to be on his/her best behavior.  Its that slow drip of disdain or disrespect that bosses can inflict upon their employees, that “kick the dog” behavior because the dog cannot fight back.  Dare I say, I despise bosses that take advantage in any way of their authority over you, but I think most of them are just human and either untrained in management or just have low social IQs, which is the gist of Liz’s article.  Bosses are human, they have frailties and insecurities and sometimes we unwittingly walk right into those.

The list could go on and on – so many uninformed, untrained, misguided, authority hungry, insecure bosses out there and we have to learn to deal with them, but there is also a time to move on.  With all this negativity let me also share that I’ve had one boss in particular, who really sincerely walked the walk of a leader, he was my greatest joy and a wonderful mentor and we’re still FB friends – good ones are out there but can be hard to find.

Having said all that, I start a new job on Wednesday!  Fingers crossed that this role of the dice brings me a seasoned veteran of socially savvy, ethical boss stock!  Sadly, blogging will now have to be my “moonlighting” activity.

Some fun links below and if you’ve had some particularly interesting boss interactions, feel free to share them in the comments, I’d love to hear other’s survival techniques!  🙂

Horrible Bosses

Horrible Bosses2 (link starts with a trailer, so speakers off if you’re at work!) hits theaters November 26th

and there is always this classic, one of my favorites, Office Space.  (Speakers off if you’re at work!), naughty, naughty employee!

OMG – how did I live without these!

Found this on www.buzzfeed.com.  I’m a big visual person so these are even more helpful for me.

I know this stuff isn’t typical blog fare as I usually prefer blogging for deeper meaning than this but I found it so useful, I am passing it along…and on #10 re: steaks – I love, love, love steak (hubby BBQs a great one) but I have no idea what that chart means, if anyone cares to interpret for me, I’d greatly appreciate it!

The link is below but for your convenience I’ve also pasted in the diagrams.

Take special note of 15 and 21 which are particularly relevant to us creative types!

21 Incredibly Important Diagrams to Help You Get Through Life

  1. Perfect cup of tea
    tea
  2. Tie a scarf
    scarf
  3. Set a dinner party table properly (dang it’s confusing!)
    dinner party
  4. Perfect burger even if you’re vegan
    burger
  5. Which beer glass to use
    beer glass
  6. Ripeness of an avocado
    avocado
  7. Perfect cheese plate
    cheese plate
  8. How to Tip correctly
    tipping
  9. Tie a perfect bow
    perfect bow
  10. Know when a steak is done by touch (I have no idea what this thing is telling me!)
    steak
  11. How to transform a “hoodie” or sweater into an emergency laptop sleeve (who knew?)
    hoodie
  12. How much of what types of food to serve at a party
    serve at dinner party
  13. How to tie a bow tie
    bow tie
  14. Converting measurements in cooking
    cooking measurements
  15. How to determine the characters for that epic novel (we’re all writing)
    epic tale
  16. Determine which glue for a project
    glue
  17. When to throw groceries out
    groceries
  18. How long to cooke veggies
    veggies
  19. How dehydrated are you?
    dehydrated
  20. How to be a creative person
    creative
  21. Determine which wine to drink with dinner (um, for me the answer is always beer!  😉
    wine

 

The Golden Age of Executive Assistants

All I can say is “it’s about time!”, thank you Sanjena SathianOZY via usatoday.comfor writing this lovely article, “Executive Assistant Is The New Power Job”.

If you’re an EA or an AA, you’ve known for a long time the supportive super power that is required to consistently be one step ahead of your boss’s needs regardless of their neglecting to leave a breadcrumb trail to what their needs may be.

Assistants (of all types) are the mind readers, those with the keenest intuition, able to pick up the smallest non-verbal signals and able to place them in their perfect puzzle piece spot in the myriad of priority options, the exacting placement of which is required to ensure our bosses are properly handled and deadlines met timely.

Executive Assistants are also the gate keepers with enough overall knowledge of the company to know which seekers in the never-ending string of people they should let through the pearly gates to the Exec’s door and which get the “take a ticket” and get in line reception. Along with that, they have the diplomacy and graceful communication skills to ensure everyone believes the boss cares immensely for their issue at hand.

The value of these dedicated and talented employees has been around for a long time so I’m thankful to hear that finally, maybe they are getting their due.

Because of my extensive experience (read that to be my subtle way of saying “youth” is not my niche these days) I would like to add that though the youngsters have drive and determination and maybe boundless stamina, mid to older EAs, in addition to that, bring with them (generally) higher EQs and overall more business and market knowledge; so please in your search for the best fit EA keep in mind old dogs can learn the new tricks of the younger app happy, Internet savvy Social Media Mavens. (Enjoyable also is the article by Teresa Mears entitled, “Why You’re Never Too Old to Become a Social Media Maven” )

One of this field’s greatest enticements is the ability for the EA or AA to transfer their experience and knowledge from one market to another. I’ve worked in the technology fields even before they were booming, sales, marketing, publishing, non-profit, construction, insurance, legal and am now, for my freelance business also writing, blogging and utilizing SEO – in all of these markets an EA/AA picks up something along the way that is beneficial to the next employer and with that your EQ rises as well, those intangibles only grow.

Whether you are a young EA starting out and lighting the world on fire with a fresh top of the line education, IQ/EQ, boundless enthusiasm and drive or you’re an older EA gracing businesses with your carpetbag of diverse experience not only in business practices but in the gentle art of human care that can only come with experience and time – you are in a field that is booming and finally getting the recognition it has always deserved.

shared via Charlotte Quider on LinkedIn (charroseonline.com)

Life Hacks – make your life easier!

You can’t go wrong with “Life Hacks” so I’ve got to share them!  For those “Naked and Afraid” followers (like my hubby), the above picture is exceptionally funny – bring your fire starter and your Doritos!

I’m well old enough to be out of the pimple stage but if you’re a youngster, Listerine on a pimple should dry that sucker up; for us old folks, take a picture of where you parked your car before you head into the mall so 5 hours later (if you have teenage girls!), you’ll be able to find your car!

Oh, and the empty ChapStick container as a hiding place for money is pretty cool, but now everyone knows that trick so oh well –  it was good while it lasted!  Wink. Wink.

The rest of the fun tips from Guff.com (always a great distraction site) are here.

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Jimmy Kimmel Strikes Again – “We’re All Confident Idiots”, here’s why…

Stumbled upon this curious article by David Dunning, a Professor of Psychology at Cornell University, for PSMag.com entitled  – “We Are All Confident Idiots“.  I’ve heard of “fake it till you make it”, which I may even be guilty of in my blogging – I’m certainly not sure of myself but try to sound like I am,  but this takes it to a whole new level of flat out WRONG!

Fun is what you’d  expect from anything with Jimmy Kimmel’s name associated with it but included with the humor is the serious psychology behind the phenomenon.

And I find that psychology of human character very fascinating, but in case you don’t have time (it is Halloween after all and I’m sure we’re all scurrying around with last minute details), I’ve pasted some of Jimmy’s “Lie Witness News” videos below.

The SXSW Edition is amazing in their blatant use of fake band names (keep in mind NONE of these bands exist) – Contact Dermatitis, WTF Bruce Jenner, Willie Nelson Mandela, really?  – we couldn’t figure those out?  And Clinton gets way more credit than he deserves no matter which side of the political divide you’re on!

I think this proves as humans, we all just like to have the answers, even if we don’t.  We are, I think, all guilty of this from time to time – it’s just a matter of degree and the frequency of occurrences.  Special thanks to those poor, unsuspecting interviewees for allowing us a chuckle at their expense.

Enjoy – Happy Halloween!

LIE WITNESS NEWS – SXSW Edition
LIE WITNESS NEWS – Clinton Edition

Are you a productivity addict…the spooky secret to success hauntingly awaits

I can spend hours exploring the Internet when I should be doing other things (like getting out of my PJs, maybe?) and I stumbled upon this post that I found intriguing and possibly lifestyle change provoking – and I too, have read much of  David Allen’s book, “Getting Things Done” – at the time, I didn’t feel like I had the focus of mind to glean the concepts from the book necessary for it to have any measure of success on me  – a challenge I’m sure we all face, at least I hope it’s not just me!  😉

The “spooky secret” post (a little Halloween fun) impresses upon us the difficulty we all already know is there in making large changes or approaching daunting tasks, where just possibly getting into the habit of breaking down the overwhelmingly big resolutions (I’m going to start a blog, write a book, open my own business, learn to play piano and the ever-present… exercise more, eat better, lose weight, reduce stress…maniacal laugh!) into vampire bite (keeping with the them) sized habits like brushing your teeth, making the bed, etc. that are so ingrained that we do not have to think about them.  Of course, that still takes practice but is not an insurmountable task.

I will let the rest of her article stand on it’s own as it has plenty of worthy content.  I hope you enjoy and let me know your thoughts, is she onto something…

I also like +Hashim Warren’s comment at the end of the article on Google+, where he suggests “clarity” is also a likely culprit in the productivity issue and I know distinctly that is one of mine even as I try to determine what, if any, particular focus my own blog should have.  #indistinctivesucks  😦

Without further fanfare, please enjoy the article, “The Surprising Spooky Secret to Enduring Success Habits” compliments of @soniasimone via @copyblogger (Google+)

Sonia

SCORE ONE FOR THE LADIES – the art of brewing beer was pioneered by women

Came across this while doing some internet research for topics I’m passionate about.
The full article on Huffington Post is available here and is well worth the read.

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Excerpt from the article… “Yes, the manliest man drink for manly men was primarily brewed, according to ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics, by the ladies. Brewing beer was seen as a domestic chore for much of history, like making bread and other things that came from grain, until the economy shifted into an industrial-based one and commercial breweries (run by men) took off. As a sad side effect, unique regional brews died out as large-scale production limited available varieties of beer.

There’s even a word, likely originating during the 12th century, for female brewers: “brewster.”

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